Loss is inevitable. I’ve said this before in an older blog, we cannot outrun time. But what happens when someone’s time comes far too soon?
Today, I received terrible news from a friend’s mom. A message I never expected to open on my phone. Honestly, a message I never thought would come at all.
Losing a good friend is one of the hardest things a person can experience, especially when it’s sudden and unexpected. I had spoken with him just over a week ago. We talked about some issues his mom was having with a bad-seed neighbor. We talked and texted often, sometimes about absolutely nothing, other times about life, work, or advice he needed.
My friend wasn’t perfect. None of us are. But he was himself, and he did what he needed to do to keep both himself and his mom grounded and moving forward. That mattered.
I am at a loss for words and devastated to have lost yet another friend.
I do not want to air out his struggles here, but I will say this: I’ve known him for a very long time. I stood beside him during some of his darkest moments, and I was there while he fought to clean himself up and rebuild his life. The road to sobriety is brutal, even when you surround yourself with good people trying to help you stay sober.
Unfortunately, my friend will likely be negatively labeled because of the way he died. I refuse to let his name be dragged through the mud. Mistakes happen, especially during recovery. Anyone who thinks differently has never truly understood addiction.
If you are reading this, say something positive for my friend and his mom. He was all she had, and every single day he made sure she was okay before worrying about himself.
What hurts the most are the little things I know are now gone forever… the late-night text asking if there was still time to grab a burger before the bar closed, or the random middle-of-the-day phone call while he was driving to the middle of nowhere to meet a client for work.
And maybe saddest of all… another phone number in my contacts that will never light up again.
Rest easy, my friend. You will forever be missed.