Stop The Stigma

It’s Ok To Not Be Ok

One of the biggest issues with suicide is that people won’t talk about it. They ignore the signs. They joke, they carry on, they act like nothing is wrong.

Then, BOOM!, someone’s gone, and no one knows what to do or say. The questions come too late. The reality hits too late.

I’ve been there. I’ve ignored the signs. I’ve told myself, there isn’t anything to worry about… until there was.

I get it. People don’t know what to say or do. Life looks perfect on the outside: kids playing, ice cream trucks rolling down the street, laughter echoing everywhere.

But the truth is, there’s darkness in most of us. Real struggles. Real pain. And many people are silently fighting battles we’ll never see.

The Yellow Elephant is an organization dedicated to shedding light on mental illness and suicide.

https://www.theyellowelephant.org

“The light shines in the darkness, but the darkness has not overcome it.”

I wear the Yellow Elephant on my right hand. It’s a reminder of a time I lost a dear friend. It’s also a reminder for myself… honestly, I’m not in a good place lately.

And yet… few around me notice. But I’m armed with QPR training, I lean on 988, and I reach out to The Yellow Elephant. Even though they’re based in Moultrie, GA, their support is real and unwavering.

When I’m at my lowest, I take a breath, glance at the tattoo, and start fighting again.

If life were a boxing match, how many rounds would there be? 10? 15? Or as many as it takes to win the fight?

So I fight. I struggle. I search for answers. And I fight again.

Here’s my reminder to everyone: we must stop the stigma. Push past the embarrassment. Push past the naivety that someone close to you couldn’t be suffering. Mental illness, emotional pain, physical pain, it’s real, and it’s often invisible.

The path to help is dark, but there is light at the end… if we as a society stop ignoring the pain around us.

https://www.crisistextline.org

https://www.nami.org

https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox

When Silence Costs Lives: Why We Need to Talk About Suicide

Mental health has always been close to my heart, and not in the Hallmark-movie way, but in the “this is life-or-death, and we keep pretending it’s not” kind of way.

And honestly? The lack of conversation around suicide breaks me a little every time.

Just today, I came across a story out of Texas.

A young woman, a student at Texas A&M, died by suicide.

Her police reports say she’d mentioned it to friends — several times — over the past few months.

And that’s the part that sticks with me.

Because sometimes, all it takes is one person to act.

One person to believe them.

One person to step in, even if it’s uncomfortable.

And maybe, just maybe, she’d still be here.

But here’s the truth we don’t like to say out loud:

A lot of people get scared.

Or they shrug it off.

Or they think “eh, they’re just being dramatic.”

Or they freeze because they don’t want to overstep or be wrong. Trust me, I’d rather be wrong than have you gone!

Meanwhile, someone out there is praying that somebody will finally take them seriously.

Suicide is complicated. It’s heavy. And yes….. there are times when someone is so determined that prevention becomes incredibly hard. But when the signs are there, when the words are spoken, when the cues are loud… that’s when one determined friend, one stubborn family member, one “I’m not letting you do this alone” human being can make the difference.

Every single community has resources.

Every one.

You don’t have to be a therapist.

You don’t have to have all the answers.

You just have to do something.

Call or text 988.

They will guide you.

They will support you.

They will tell you exactly what to say and what steps to take.

And if you’re wondering what you’d want someone to do for you if you were the one in crisis?

There’s your answer.

I’ve helped people before. More than once.

And I know this about myself: if I ever hit a point where I need help, I hope someone steps in for me too. No hesitation. No silence.

Too many lives are being cut short because people brushed off the signs.

Too many people are walking around hurting while the world pretends not to notice.

But we can change that, community by community, conversation by conversation.

If you need resources, here are some that save lives every damn day:

http://988lifeline.org

http://TheYellowElephant.org

http://QPRInstitute.com

Local Law Enforcement

Let’s stop treating “suicide talk” like a taboo.

Let’s kill the stigma, not the conversation.

Let’s be the person who steps up instead of stepping back.

Because you never know… today might be the day you save a life.

His Story Is Not Over

I know I’m a day late, but when it comes to talking about suicide, it’s never too late! September 10th was National Suicide Prevention Day. We must stop the stigma and open up about mental health, mental illness, and suicide,

Nearly ten years ago, my best friend died by suicide. We can go on and on about how he was the life of the party and the happiest person anyone ever knew. The truth is, no one ever paid attention to the real issues! No one saw the depression, the pain, and warning signs.

We as a society need to do better. Better at paying attention, better at asking for help, and better at asking if someone is ok.

I went through it all when he was gone. Loneliness, confusion, anger, unanswered questions, and personal blame.

What I found was help. Family help, friends help and online help. This is when I found the Yellow Elephant. The elephant in the room, don’t be afraid to talk about it, it’s there and we already should be talking about it. Yellow? “John 1:5: The light shines in the darkness but the darkness has not overcome it.” Semi-colon tusks, because your story is not over!

Through the Yellow Elephant I met some amazing people and learned a lot about suicide and suicide prevention. I got my QPR certification. Like CPR, for a medical emergency, I learned QPR, for mental emergency.

Q: Question P: Persuade R: Refer

I created a Facebook page, Acknowledged Care Tell – ACT.

This is a safe place where anyone is welcome. A place you can ask for help, a place you ask for an ear, a place you can be yourself.

After my friend was gone, I didn’t want another family, another friend to ever have to go through this kind of pain.

Never Alone! The motto I will live by. Because you are never alone. The void will never be filled and the questions will never be answered. All I wish I could change is to know then what I know now. I would have been there. I would have saw your pain. I would have asked how can I help!

Because of you, I will be a better person. I will be there for anyone in distress. If I can help, I will do my best to prevent anyone else from feeling this type of loss.

https://www.theyellowelephant.org

https://988lifeline.org

https://facebook.com/groups/959955537794363/